Dave Stewart on music, marriage and Annie LennoxChrissy Iley
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The man who co-founded the Eurythmics say that his life changed when he was able to accept himself - and to accept love
Talking to Dave Stewart is like trying to catch a colony of moths. No sooner is one moth-like thought out of his mouth than another has come, and another.
It’s not surprising; the man who co-founded the Eurythmics is involved in so many projects, it’s hard to pin him down on just one of them. There is his first solo album in 15 years, The Blackbird Diaries, and his band Super Heavy with Mick Jagger, Damian Marley, A.R. Rahman and Joss Stone. There’s the score he has co-written for the musical Ghost, and the one he’s about to write for a musical called Bar Italia, based on the coffee bar in Soho and the Polledri family who owns it. He’s making several films and a pilot TV series. And on top of all that, he has written and produced the new albums of both Stevie Nicks and Joss Stone.
Is he the king of multitasking? “The word I use is ‘naughty’. It sums it up,” he says, with an appropriately naughty chuckle. How does he ever sleep? “At 7.30pm every night, I make a vodka Martini, a very strong one, with two olives and just the smell of vermouth, and I switch off. I have dinner, perhaps some red wine, hang out with the kids. Then I wake up at 8am, do swimming and Pilates and drink coconut water.”
Not all of Stewart’s life has been as calm — or as healthy. He has been involved in three car crashes, one of them nearly fatal when he was in a car travelling from Holland to Germany. “Another guy was driving and we somehow got pulled on to the wrong side of the motorway and into oncoming traffic. The car crashed, my rib was broken and it punctured the lung. My girlfriend broke her leg, and her baby, who was then about 2, got thrown out of the car. Weirdly, several years ago I was at the opening of Silks & Spice in Camden Town and a girl who was working there came up to me and said: ‘You don’t know who I am, but I’m the baby who flew out of the car’.”
His sons, Sam and Django (with his former wife Siobhan Fahey), have a band, Nightmare and the Cat. Sam is tall, dark and studious, whereas Django is the frontman, charismatic. We listen to their album, which is good. They seem to complement each other comfortably: the flamboyant frontman and the shy guitar virtuoso. “I wouldn’t be able to show you it if I didn’t think it was great,” Stewart says. “It’s hard for them, because they have to be good.”
His sons, his wife Anoushka Fisz, and his former wife were all at a much-applauded Stevie Nicks gig the previous night. Fahey wrote him an e-mail saying: “I had a great time at the gig last night. Hope you did too.” It all seems very civil.
“I’ve never really talked about me and Siobhan, although I’ve read some things that she’s said. It’s always one person’s perspective.” What Fahey has said is that it was hard to feel fulfilled as an artist when living with another artist. “My housekeeper has a phrase: ‘You don’t put two tigers in the same cage.’ And maybe when [her band] Shakespears Sister became huge, being in a confined space with two careers could be very difficult.
“Siobhan and Annie [Lennox] were very different relationships. The thing with Annie and I was that it worked out big time in a different way after we’d broken up.” (When they were a couple, pre-Eurythmics, they never actually wrote a song together, whereas now he’s still writing songs about Annie.) His current marriage seems calm and happy. They were married on a beach in St Tropez by Deepak Chopra, with The Edge, Bono and Elton John among the revellers. Yet on Stewart’s latest album, there are traces of regret, especially on the track All Messed Up. Who is he talking about here? “Oh, I think a lot of these songs are still about Annie. Remember, I haven’t made an album for 15 years. There was a lot to come out.In fact, this is the first time I’ve felt comfortable singing my songs as a singer-songwriter. Annie always made me feel that I couldn’t sing. I’m very sensitive and she’s an amazing belter and I just felt . . .” He’s mumbling now, so I can hardly hear him. For a minute he’s the old Dave Stewart who doesn’t have his own voice.
“I think it was because I recorded and wrote this album in Nashville [duetting with country superstar Martina McBride]. It was like a baptism of fire,” he says. “None of these people knew me. I never used to sound like me before and now that I’ve been able to erase other people’s voices out of my head I sound like me again.”
Since then, his confidence has much improved and the attacks of anxiety he has felt for years are diminishing. “Although I don’t like going into restaurants and the supermarket still makes me anxious,” he says. “When I was living in Crouch End in the 1980s, I told the doctor that I felt very anxious going into Tesco, and he was just writing and he put it in an envelope and said: ‘Give this to somebody in reception.’ In reception this woman said: ‘There’s a taxi to take you somewhere to see a specialist’ and I ended up going through the doors of Friern Barnet mental hospital, saying: ‘No, no, there’s a mistake.’ I managed to talk my way out of it.”
Stewart seems to have had a strange reaction to success: it diluted his confidence, rather than fulfilled him. The more successful he became with Eurythmics, the more he doubted himself. “I got paradise syndrome. I think every person that gets hurtled into fame gets that a little bit: ‘Oh, I don’t deserve this, hang on a little bit, my legs are going to fall off, so I’ll just do something not consciously but subconsciously to destroy it.’ Probably 99 per cent of people press a self-destruct button because they’re afraid of the light.”
Having grown up as a Sunderland boy used to disappointment, he couldn’t reprogramme himself for success, and ended up believing he had all these terrible illnesses because he felt that he deserved them. His life changed, he says, when he was able to accept himself and to accept love.
“Me and Bryan Ferry were recording in France and he wanted me to go to a dinner in St Tropez. I was doing everything to talk him out of it. The people who had arranged the dinner had put me next to Anoushka because we both take photographs. We talked till 3am.” It was raining and it was outside and they didn’t even notice.
“We saw each other for a few days in France, but we didn’t go out with each other or sleep together. I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I next saw her nine months later and found that she couldn’t stop thinking about me. We had been together about two years and we already had a baby when we got married.”
Does he feel happy? “I do, actually. I feel I’m in the right place at the right time, and my work/home balance, which was very complicated in the past, also feels right. I think that in the past I was somebody who found it very difficult to accept love. I used not to be able to understand that somebody would love me. But being able to be loved is why I feel comfortable in myself and why I feel I can sing again.”
Blackbird Diaries is released on June 27