Fire,
I'm guessing that porn addiction is mostly a male thing. I don't know. I appreciate your response about imagination, too, because right now my mind is conjuring up some pretty hot images of you.Whew, I'm going to go turn on a cold shower now....

Now I'm back. Of course there is nothing better than real contact between two lovers who are totally giving of themselves to their mate. Girl, from reading your comments I think you are headed in the right direction. I think you will find true happiness that exceeds those drug fueled flings. That's my opinion anyway. Have fun, be kind to yourself, do what comes naturally. But you already know these things. Now get on with it, my friend. Let us know how it goes.
Luke
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I remember when I at first responded to this thread,I wrote that I didn't want to change the way I live cause I love the stones, cocaine,women and alcohol.

But you didn't ask to change my lifestyle,you wanted to know how I live,as you could see here before this thread made me think, opened my eyes.
I should love myself so I can give love to someone else,gotta treat myself right so I'll treat someone else right.

All these women,with me on cocaine and alcohol,just focussed on having sex not loving her whole body,damn!What am I doing to myself and what did I do to them!
And yeah I will write you about the coming changes.
Thanks fire help yourself as good as you can help others!

In my first reaction I was defensive,but there was no reason to be defensive.
There where pieces of a mirror and I didn't want to see myself then.

That's cool, Mr. Tongue. I've been there. Seen the broken mirrors. I remember your first post, too. You are now changing right before our very eyes. Fascinating. Perhaps we are witnessing you coming to the realization that life can be so much more fulfilling if shared with someone you love. I am a firm believer in happiness from a meaningful relationship with a woman. That's just my opinion, of course. Don't rush into anything, though; you will know when it's right. As for that cocaine, it's fun isn't it? Well guess what? Eventually, she will turn on you like a wounded jackal. Beware the icy snowbitch, my friend. You be the one to tell her NO. It is empowering.

no alcohol
no drugs
no smoking
health nut
gym 3xs a week
vegetarian
fan of rock climbing and yoga
also try to meditate for at least an hour a day

La tongue,I locked myself up when I realised what I was doing, I stopped everything I did to work on myself.Now I don't use drugs anymore,don't have sex anymore, but I'm still struggling with nicotin and alcohol.
I think it's true when you say that you have to search it inside instead of outside yourself.
And when you're able to give yourself what you need and you're happy, think about what you can give to someone else!!
Then there will be no need that they'll give you something cause you can't give it to your self!
Goodluck La tongue I'm glad that I inspired you.
Read you sometimes.

Yes,canadian sway I'm a vegetarian too,like the way you live,but I'm not that far.

I don't like to lock myself up,don't wanna be alone!

La tongue you don't need to lock yourself up,that's what I do.
But if you want to do this ,don't be afraid of yourself, do what you like, heal yourself,being alone also can give you such a freedom!!!!

La tongue,

I stay alone cause I need this confrontation with myself,it makes me able to work better, more concentrated.

Hang in Mandu. Ride your journey thru life on your own terms.

Fire,
can you give me your (e-mail) adress or number,so we can talk about this all more private I feel a bit ashamed.I would like to give you mine but I don't know how to do this without loosing my privacy.I think I can learn a lot from your personal experiences.

I asked this, for me and my girlfriend too,there gotta come changes and it seems you're on the road.If you don't want to go more personal that's allright too,I learned a lot and if we want to we will find our way,thanks anyway.

Rooster is thinking...the clear blue sky out to the darkness below..so I better beware!Of darkness...hmmmmm that new president of Bolivia is really cool!!!The fight against booze and shit..and to talk about it honest..one might help someone like LA...in the end there is only you..no one is gonna help you...if you are a good soul..you remain good..cause you put something(bad?)into a good soul..so the spirit is activated!!Sure not good for ones health!But still fun!!Just aint no fun to be drunk..or stoned...how can one ever do the lifestyle..when there s no money left? Of course these are all luxury problems of course!!!One can always choose to live in Peru!Where gold dust is holy and has nothing to do..with what you think is R&R style!!!Put on your black leather..and shock me!!!!!Rolling Stones Forever lifestyle-We all need someone we can lean on!!!Cause when we kissed..oehhhh...fire!!!

Lets go to Rio ....and talk about lifestyle!!!!...but to anyone fighting against there own style!!!All the luck..love and cheers!!!you know who you are!!!!

Me and my beautifull girlfriend,we broke up.I'm running into cocaine and alcohol.This isn't what I want!!!!
Even the stones don't help me!


How are you doing?

Just don't overdo it and you'll be fine. And hey, there's always another girl waiting somewhere down the line

Hello Young Tongue,
Listen to ohno... take it easy. Good god, man, you'll find another girl. Have some fun, but don't go off the deep end.

Maybe you really do need to talk to a drug counselor or a recovered drug addict in person. Lots of cool people get help. It's called survival. I'm rooting for you, son.

La going through the same thing!!!You dont want to hear me..gues ya want Fire!!!!THere will always be a reason..to use...stay alive..try to eat..sleep..the besst foryouand fo fire...

Drink..@#$%&...smoke...eat.... you only live once, so enjoy it!

save some gold dus t

Lorrd I gues I m lying to myself its you no one else!fuc-ing with my dreams aint no style!lord!!

Lonely hearts are made to break.

La tongue,

I thougt I was very personal in this thread.

I told you how I stopped using xtc,cocaine,speed and weed,but I'm not finished yet I'm still drinking to much,still smoke and got to keep an eye on the sex-addicttion.
But I won't give up before I stopped every attack on myself with poisson or unhealthy life-patterns.
You wrote you don't want to lock yourself up, maybe you'll find another way to come out of it all, especially now you got more space to experiment, cause you and your girl broke up.

I'm doing a self-help-programme at the internet, for the alcohol and nicotin, at the moment,some programmes are there in english too.I don't know where you're from but maybe you can give it a try;

www.jellinek.nl

Maybe you can also call them for help near you or just to talk there's a possibility to chat also!


I can't give you more then I already tried,I need to help myself first I'm still struggling(got this terrible headache now)!

Í wont be on this board that much either,otherwise I become line-addicted,kidding.


So take care and good luck,you can learn it and your worth it!!!!!

And maybe it helps you to dance,or start running,I don't know if you do this,or other forms of excersise!!!
It helps me!!

And La tongue about the breaking up with your girlfriend.

Maybe I went,and am still, going through the motions too.
I recently had a break up too.
At first I tried to runnaway from all that I felt,the pain,but then I came to my senses again and I cried,cried,cried....and then there came a moment when I found out how to handle these feelings.

These experiences made me also realise that I got to learn to treat myself good so I'll attrackt people who are treating themselves good too,instead of destroying myself and others or let others destroy themselves and me!

For me it works better to make the changes if I'm alone,so I stay alone for a while,not running away in another relationship or sex,or drugs.

I learn that it's not scary to feel what I feel,I accept my feelings,it makes my life rich,the feelings are changing all the time it's so exciting,more exciting to me then being drunk,high or stoned.

I don't know how you're going to do all you want to.
But I know there will be another girl,maybe a better love cause you changed.


I wish you all the luck you want and need.

La Tongue you gotta move out in the countryside,
avoid your friends & act like a cop towards yerself.
Get back to you.

LA...stay home!!!Awhile it helps!!!Let tell me beyour White lady!!!just post what you feel and go trough..and to Fire..did you ever heard that''Miss You''Oshawa blind date version its damm funky..its on buy and trade for free!!!did you bought Exile?

La tongue Wrote:
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> I don't like to lock myself up,don't wanna be
> alone!


T h a t s your Problem, Brother. Gotta face yourself.
Rest in yourself. In your own self.
Go to the Big Woods/Forests... Some of us have done the trip.



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LA, from the great philosopher Mick Jagger - "Girls will come and go, they're just like streetcars".

Hang in there brother, there's another one for you. Most, if not all, of us on here have been through the broken heart. Nothing cures it but time. However, another pretty lady by your side will help that time pass by quicker. Don't let that coke get a hold on you. It's wicked stuff that won't let go.

I don't know much, but the above is true.

Good luck!

Scotty