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odean73
so sorry to read about your loss.
Condolences to you and your family.
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MitchSeaGull
There was a beautiful 29 year old model who committed suicide yesterday. Her boyfriend was with the NHL and she had starred in a tv show. She was gorgeous and successful. Who would think that someone like that would kill herself?
You can't really fathom what is in people's minds .
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MILKYWAY
Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. Josh had been drinking heavily since our mother died in late-March 2013. I also understand he was having marital problems. My other brother, Eddie, was Josh's best friend & he has given me a lot of background information about Josh's final days.
Josh felt guilty about not spending so much time with my mom before her death. Mom had been in a vegatative state since a car accident St. Patrick's Day 1987 (26 years). It was hard for him to see Mom in that state. Josh's wife , Amy, refused to go to my mother's internment, and Josh was embarrassed by her absence.
About a week ago -- Apparently, Amy was angry with Josh when she found a small bag of marijuana in his jeans. Amy took all of Josh's inheritance money (that he had received from Mom -- about US$50,000) from a joint checking account and placed it in an account in her name only, so that Josh couldn't access the money. Amy then kicked Josh out of the house and told Josh she was moving several states away with their children & that she would make sure Josh never saw his children again.
I know Josh pulled the trigger but I hold Amy responsible. She used to call him a bad father to his children. In FRONT of his children. In his suicide letter, he apologized for being a bad father. Josh loved his children dearly and everyone I have spoken with agrees he was a GREAT dad.
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dcba
Make sue you bring the kids to a psychologist : in a sad case like this young children are prone to think it's their fault if Dad or Mom committed suicide.
So they have to be explained it's not the case, otherwise the guilt can cripple their entire adult life.
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MILKYWAY
Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. Josh had been drinking heavily since our mother died in late-March 2013. I also understand he was having marital problems. My other brother, Eddie, was Josh's best friend & he has given me a lot of background information about Josh's final days.
Josh felt guilty about not spending so much time with my mom before her death. Mom had been in a vegatative state since a car accident St. Patrick's Day 1987 (26 years). It was hard for him to see Mom in that state. Josh's wife , Amy, refused to go to my mother's internment, and Josh was embarrassed by her absence.
About a week ago -- Apparently, Amy was angry with Josh when she found a small bag of marijuana in his jeans. Amy took all of Josh's inheritance money (that he had received from Mom -- about US$50,000) from a joint checking account and placed it in an account in her name only, so that Josh couldn't access the money. Amy then kicked Josh out of the house and told Josh she was moving several states away with their children & that she would make sure Josh never saw his children again.
I know Josh pulled the trigger but I hold Amy responsible. She used to call him a bad father to his children. In FRONT of his children. In his suicide letter, he apologized for being a bad father. Josh loved his children dearly and everyone I have spoken with agrees he was a GREAT dad.
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dcba
Make sue you bring the kids to a psychologist : in a sad case like this young children are prone to think it's their fault if Dad or Mom committed suicide.
So they have to be explained it's not the case, otherwise the guilt can cripple their entire adult life.
I'm so so sorry to hear your news, Milkyway, and wish you and your family the strength to get through this. Give eachother love and support. A close friend was 7 when she lost her mother to suicide. It is still a very painful subject for my friend but she did find counselling immensely helpful. It helped her understand that it wasn't her fault - her mother had suffered from the terrible illness of depression.