"Its the women want to hear the hits. Most (not all) women are content with hearing the hits and seeing them. A lot of men are more serious about the music"
that's ridicolous
"Scrap the stadiums and play shows in arenas and theatres for multiple nights."
i agree with this, and hopefully the slower ticket sales this time will oblige them to do so. The risk is: they stop playing stadiums > they stop period.
"If anything, its those with no criticisms at all who seem to be the folks with the most angst and frustration"
i don't agree at all with this. First because not everyone that is happy with the shows have "no criticism at all" about the band or the shows themselves. Second because those of them you can charge with "excessive enthusiasm" or "unconditioned love" about the band in general (the word fanatic is telling per se). While some "critics" seem to have just a fixation about setlists as it were the most serious thing about the creativity of the band. They sure are telling in both negative and positive way about the shape of the band but, imo, should not be taken that seriously (a part from those who are used to attend ten show in a row and have problems with being started up for the eleventh time).
As I see it, frustration of the "always happy ones", those that follow with OMG!, Awesome!, F... I wish I was there as the set is listed on the boards, comes mostly as a reaction against the "always bitter ones". In fact you pointed at the moaning against the moaners.
And of course there's a difference, not always detected by the happy ones, between a "always bitter moaner" and someone who don't buy everything.
However, if I should face an "in and out" choice between those two extremes, I will stand with the "always happy ones", if anything for ethimological reason of the word "fan"