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Maybe a good Psychologist may help...or a long stay in a nuthouse...
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Strange to put this sort of issue on a Rolling Stones website but it's strange days indeed. Professional advice is needed. If you are still in love with her counseling can help. If you're not, maybe it's time to go.
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Strange to put this sort of issue on a Rolling Stones website but it's strange days indeed. Professional advice is needed. If you are still in love with her counseling can help. If you're not, maybe it's time to go.
Yep we've been to about 20 sessions and that helped enormously. But last one was in april and it takes about 10 weeks and whoops it starts again. I guess it's all about astrology, I'm a fire sign (aries) and I tell ya it ain't no coincidence both Mick and Keith are fire signs and Brian's a fish. Aquaries and fishes are two special breeds indeed. Test this theory on anyone you know, it actually works.
A lot of musicians are geminies(Both Charlie and Ronnie for instance), as are lotsa american presidents.
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
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Hey thanks MadMax, I should use this as a confidence boost
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
The same here mate! Only I'm aries (fire sign too) but the missus is aquaries and she sure is a master in making me feel unwanted to paraphrase Gram Parsons.....
The quote saying that fire needs air but not vice-versa, how I wish I would've known that 5 years ago!
Nikkei good news!: The Libra with Libra romance is a breeze. It's like looking into a mirror and loving what you see. Early dates clue them in that they've found an intellectual equal. ... Libra Suns know how to turn a phrase and stay mutually dazzled by the conversation...
My ex-wife is cancer and the worst match for a aries is cancer, interestingly enough we were married for about 6 months..... Guess fire needs fire...?
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
The same here mate! Only I'm aries (fire sign too) but the missus is aquaries and she sure is a master in making me feel unwanted to paraphrase Gram Parsons.....
The quote saying that fire needs air but not vice-versa, how I wish I would've known that 5 years ago!
Nikkei good news!: The Libra with Libra romance is a breeze. It's like looking into a mirror and loving what you see. Early dates clue them in that they've found an intellectual equal. ... Libra Suns know how to turn a phrase and stay mutually dazzled by the conversation...
My ex-wife is cancer and the worst match for a aries is cancer, interestingly enough we were married for about 6 months..... Guess fire needs fire...?
Madmax,
Yes indeed, fire does work best with fire it would seem: Overall, an Aries man will happily match and marry star signs such as Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Taurus, Aquarius, and Gemini. Ironically, one of Aquarius' best matches is Libra, which is what my ex-wife is, and I was bored out of my mind. Leo and Aquarius CAN work, but it is a lifetime commitment to a LOT of work and PATIENCE.
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
The same here mate! Only I'm aries (fire sign too) but the missus is aquaries and she sure is a master in making me feel unwanted to paraphrase Gram Parsons.....
The quote saying that fire needs air but not vice-versa, how I wish I would've known that 5 years ago!
Nikkei good news!: The Libra with Libra romance is a breeze. It's like looking into a mirror and loving what you see. Early dates clue them in that they've found an intellectual equal. ... Libra Suns know how to turn a phrase and stay mutually dazzled by the conversation...
My ex-wife is cancer and the worst match for a aries is cancer, interestingly enough we were married for about 6 months..... Guess fire needs fire...?
Madmax,
Yes indeed, fire does work best with fire it would seem: Overall, an Aries man will happily match and marry star signs such as Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Taurus, Aquarius, and Gemini. Ironically, one of Aquarius' best matches is Libra, which is what my ex-wife is, and I was bored out of my mind. Leo and Aquarius CAN work, but it is a lifetime commitment to a LOT of work and PATIENCE.
The fact that aquarius' best friend is a libra I just read the last week mate! Then it all made sense to me as the missus can't let go of her mother who happens to be.. a LIBRA! They're really best friends, it's a god damn disaster I tell ya! She is my best friend but I am not her best friend, which is quite humiliating.
This is the biggest obstacle in our relationship, which is a pity as I love her to bits and I can't live without her. I would die for her in an instant but when it's bad I am very much tempted to call her by the name of Norma, after a certain Anthony Perkins....
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
The same here mate! Only I'm aries (fire sign too) but the missus is aquaries and she sure is a master in making me feel unwanted to paraphrase Gram Parsons.....
The quote saying that fire needs air but not vice-versa, how I wish I would've known that 5 years ago!
Nikkei good news!: The Libra with Libra romance is a breeze. It's like looking into a mirror and loving what you see. Early dates clue them in that they've found an intellectual equal. ... Libra Suns know how to turn a phrase and stay mutually dazzled by the conversation...
My ex-wife is cancer and the worst match for a aries is cancer, interestingly enough we were married for about 6 months..... Guess fire needs fire...?
Madmax,
Yes indeed, fire does work best with fire it would seem: Overall, an Aries man will happily match and marry star signs such as Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Taurus, Aquarius, and Gemini. Ironically, one of Aquarius' best matches is Libra, which is what my ex-wife is, and I was bored out of my mind. Leo and Aquarius CAN work, but it is a lifetime commitment to a LOT of work and PATIENCE.
The fact that aquarius' best friend is a libra I just read the last week mate! Then it all made sense to me as the missus can't let go of her mother who happens to be.. a LIBRA! They're really best friends, it's a god damn disaster I tell ya! She is my best friend but I am not her best friend, which is quite humiliating.
This is the biggest obstacle in our relationship, which is a pity as I love her to bits and I can't live without her. I would die for her in an instant but when it's bad I am very much tempted to call her by the name of Norma, after a certain Anthony Perkins....
I can relate to a lot of that Max.......I'd do the same for my Missus, and we often have brutal arguments that have gone to the dark side of the spectrum at times. Doesn't help that we also come from VERY different backgrounds either - she's a city chick from a dysfunctional family, and I'm a country boy thru and thru. She barely made it thru high school, and I'm a college grad. I'm a a divorcee with 3 kids from my first marriage, and my ex doesn't work - she was a stay at home mom, and in NY, I was taken to the cleaners for that. It's INSANE the amount that I had to pay out in alimony and still pay in child support. I literally count down the days, day by day til the kids drop off one by one. But despite all of that, we are coming up on 3 years married at the end of this month, and we are committed to working thru our differences and figuring out how to make this marriage work. I, too, need her to be my best friend, but don't often feel like she is. It's a matter of training your brain to forget about the negative stuff and really focus on the positive and why you want to be together in the first place - what brought you together and why did you get married. That sort of thing. It can definitely get better bro, but you BOTH have to be committed to putting in the effort to you's back there.
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
The same here mate! Only I'm aries (fire sign too) but the missus is aquaries and she sure is a master in making me feel unwanted to paraphrase Gram Parsons.....
The quote saying that fire needs air but not vice-versa, how I wish I would've known that 5 years ago!
Nikkei good news!: The Libra with Libra romance is a breeze. It's like looking into a mirror and loving what you see. Early dates clue them in that they've found an intellectual equal. ... Libra Suns know how to turn a phrase and stay mutually dazzled by the conversation...
My ex-wife is cancer and the worst match for a aries is cancer, interestingly enough we were married for about 6 months..... Guess fire needs fire...?
Madmax,
Yes indeed, fire does work best with fire it would seem: Overall, an Aries man will happily match and marry star signs such as Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Taurus, Aquarius, and Gemini. Ironically, one of Aquarius' best matches is Libra, which is what my ex-wife is, and I was bored out of my mind. Leo and Aquarius CAN work, but it is a lifetime commitment to a LOT of work and PATIENCE.
The fact that aquarius' best friend is a libra I just read the last week mate! Then it all made sense to me as the missus can't let go of her mother who happens to be.. a LIBRA! They're really best friends, it's a god damn disaster I tell ya! She is my best friend but I am not her best friend, which is quite humiliating.
This is the biggest obstacle in our relationship, which is a pity as I love her to bits and I can't live without her. I would die for her in an instant but when it's bad I am very much tempted to call her by the name of Norma, after a certain Anthony Perkins....
I can relate to a lot of that Max.......I'd do the same for my Missus, and we often have brutal arguments that have gone to the dark side of the spectrum at times. Doesn't help that we also come from VERY different backgrounds either - she's a city chick from a dysfunctional family, and I'm a country boy thru and thru. She barely made it thru high school, and I'm a college grad. I'm a a divorcee with 3 kids from my first marriage, and my ex doesn't work - she was a stay at home mom, and in NY, I was taken to the cleaners for that. It's INSANE the amount that I had to pay out in alimony and still pay in child support. I literally count down the days, day by day til the kids drop off one by one. But despite all of that, we are coming up on 3 years married at the end of this month, and we are committed to working thru our differences and figuring out how to make this marriage work. I, too, need her to be my best friend, but don't often feel like she is. It's a matter of training your brain to forget about the negative stuff and really focus on the positive and why you want to be together in the first place - what brought you together and why did you get married. That sort of thing. It can definitely get better bro, but you BOTH have to be committed to putting in the effort to you's back there.
Voodoo, Bro I really appreciate your words, I feel very lonely at the moment as it is a really bad situation right now. I am so happy for you that you have your wife by your side, from your description I am sure she loves you deeply. I do not receive those signals at all from my (who I want to be) "soulmate". I know a lot of people don't believe astrology but it actually helps me a lot during this horrible time.
I am commited but I am starting to doubt she is. I come from a very stable home with mum and dad still together after 44 years of marriage and I got no intention to get divorced again, whereas my lady had a quite rough upbringing in a latin american country with her dad abusive and missing most of the time. Now I feel she project her experiences again at us which breaks my heart. I am always happy and positive but she can get real dark and then it is impossible to get through to her. She knows I die for her and every time we have a crisis (which is way to often) she thanks me afterwards for standing by her.
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If you're into that stuff, can you tell me how Libra goes with Libra? Are they complementing each other perfectly or do they sort of zero-sum cancel out?
The same here mate! Only I'm aries (fire sign too) but the missus is aquaries and she sure is a master in making me feel unwanted to paraphrase Gram Parsons.....
The quote saying that fire needs air but not vice-versa, how I wish I would've known that 5 years ago!
Nikkei good news!: The Libra with Libra romance is a breeze. It's like looking into a mirror and loving what you see. Early dates clue them in that they've found an intellectual equal. ... Libra Suns know how to turn a phrase and stay mutually dazzled by the conversation...
My ex-wife is cancer and the worst match for a aries is cancer, interestingly enough we were married for about 6 months..... Guess fire needs fire...?
Madmax,
Yes indeed, fire does work best with fire it would seem: Overall, an Aries man will happily match and marry star signs such as Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Taurus, Aquarius, and Gemini. Ironically, one of Aquarius' best matches is Libra, which is what my ex-wife is, and I was bored out of my mind. Leo and Aquarius CAN work, but it is a lifetime commitment to a LOT of work and PATIENCE.
The fact that aquarius' best friend is a libra I just read the last week mate! Then it all made sense to me as the missus can't let go of her mother who happens to be.. a LIBRA! They're really best friends, it's a god damn disaster I tell ya! She is my best friend but I am not her best friend, which is quite humiliating.
This is the biggest obstacle in our relationship, which is a pity as I love her to bits and I can't live without her. I would die for her in an instant but when it's bad I am very much tempted to call her by the name of Norma, after a certain Anthony Perkins....
I can relate to a lot of that Max.......I'd do the same for my Missus, and we often have brutal arguments that have gone to the dark side of the spectrum at times. Doesn't help that we also come from VERY different backgrounds either - she's a city chick from a dysfunctional family, and I'm a country boy thru and thru. She barely made it thru high school, and I'm a college grad. I'm a a divorcee with 3 kids from my first marriage, and my ex doesn't work - she was a stay at home mom, and in NY, I was taken to the cleaners for that. It's INSANE the amount that I had to pay out in alimony and still pay in child support. I literally count down the days, day by day til the kids drop off one by one. But despite all of that, we are coming up on 3 years married at the end of this month, and we are committed to working thru our differences and figuring out how to make this marriage work. I, too, need her to be my best friend, but don't often feel like she is. It's a matter of training your brain to forget about the negative stuff and really focus on the positive and why you want to be together in the first place - what brought you together and why did you get married. That sort of thing. It can definitely get better bro, but you BOTH have to be committed to putting in the effort to you's back there.
Voodoo, Bro I really appreciate your words, I feel very lonely at the moment as it is a really bad situation right now. I am so happy for you that you have your wife by your side, from your description I am sure she loves you deeply. I do not receive those signals at all from my (who I want to be) "soulmate". I know a lot of people don't believe astrology but it actually helps me a lot during this horrible time.
I am commited but I am starting to doubt she is. I come from a very stable home with mum and dad still together after 44 years of marriage and I got no intention to get divorced again, whereas my lady had a quite rough upbringing in a latin american country with her dad abusive and missing most of the time. Now I feel she project her experiences again at us which breaks my heart. I am always happy and positive but she can get real dark and then it is impossible to get through to her. She knows I die for her and every time we have a crisis (which is way to often) she thanks me afterwards for standing by her.
It's tough, MadMax, no doubt about that. There have been plenty of times that I've thought of leaving, and even have left for a few days, or she's thrown me out, and I go stay at the folks house for a few days. We actually split for a few months earlier this year. We were doing really bad leading up to COVID, headed for a divorce, and then COVID forced us to be holed up together here and we survived that. Not without some turbulence, but we made it thru nonetheless, and coming out of it, we were headed for tough times again. I haven't seen my kids since Oct. 2019, and they have no interest in Facetiming or anything, barely pick up the phone when I call, or respond to my texts, so I've been really depressed with that, feeling like a sh-t father. Add to that the problems in my marriage, and I myself was in a dark place a few months back. Even put a knife to my chest, and that's what led to our splitting up for a few months. We have photos all over our condo of different places and things we've done together and it helps to make us remember why we are here. Many of my friends have said to leave too, and of course, that doesn't help either. In my heart, I know she is my soulmate, and the only person for me, which is why I can't let her go. She's helped me mend my relationship with my kids, and even with my dad, who I hadn't had a good relationship for a few decades. She's an integral part of my life, and when all of the BS is put aside, we know why we are together. Unfortunately, a lot of that BS does seep in and makes it harder. Try sitting her down and having a talk with her. Tell her how you feel, try to get her to remember why she's with you. Best of luck!!