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stonesrule
CR, you did GOOD!
I went through it all with my mother. Her doctor wouldn't allow her to go to hospice...the bastard. YES! Music matters a lot. She listened to the Stones,
Dylan, Ella Fitzgerald and for the last few days all she wanted to hear was
Ronnie Van Zant; she's known the original Skynyrd and fed them many a home-cooked meal.
The other thing I recommend is the simple act of holding your loved one's hand. Wish I'd thought of it earlier in the process.
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crholmstrom
Thanks to all for your kind thoughts. Think my footer on these posts sums it up pretty well.
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MingSubu
crholmstrom,
I'm very sorry for your loss. I recently lost my father to cancer this past February.
Your post from April 7th at 20:58 really hits home. I'm still mindfucked over it all.
Be strong and take care.
Thom
ps. Hospice, in my opinion, did a great job. Glad to read that they were a help to you too.
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MingSubu
crholmstrom,
I'm very sorry for your loss. I recently lost my father to cancer this past February.
Your post from April 7th at 20:58 really hits home. I'm still mindfucked over it all.
Be strong and take care.
Thom
ps. Hospice, in my opinion, did a great job. Glad to read that they were a help to you too.
Thank you, Thom. I am sorry for your loss & that you had a similar experience. Dad & I didn't have the closest relationship due in part to the other players (his wife & my sister) but I was there for him when he needed it. I know what you mean about the mind @#$%&. I have finally stopped running around & it is hitting. I think it is going to be a very quiet weekend. My friend who has been my support is out of town but we had a nice evening Thursday. Will be texting with her. I am being chill right now but some unpleasant truths are going to be told in the near future. Funny how the people who took everything were the ones who disappeared. I feel good about being able to take care of him but it has taken a lot out of me. Telling him that he needed to let go was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I'm the only one in the family who works & have been in the middle of a chemo cycle myself. I still managed to devote all the time possible to making dad's passage as easy as I could. Never said I was "too busy". I have no regrets about the past few weeks but it is going to take some time to heal. Thanks again, Chuck